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The Dangers of Social Media Comparison: How it Diminishes Our Self-Worth and Joy


In a recent Bonus episode of the Recover Your Soul podcast I talked about the impact of comparing our lives to others, particularly through the lens of social media. As someone who witnessed the evolution of technology and media, I have seen the drastic changes that have shaped our perceptions and relationships. In this post, I want to explore how social media's portrayal of perfection has influenced our self-esteem and offer insights on reclaiming our authenticity.



Growing up in the 1970s, our sources of entertainment and information were limited. We listened to the same songs, watched the same TV shows, and shared a collective exposure to the world. But even then, there was a societal standard to conform to, with expectations regarding appearance, popularity, and lifestyle. However, the rise of digital platforms and social media intensified this pressure exponentially.


With the advent of Facebook roughly two decades ago, our lives underwent a significant shift. Initially conceived as a digital yearbook for Ivy League students, it gradually evolved into a global platform for connection. Suddenly, we found ourselves in a culture where the focus was on presenting the best and happiest moments of our lives. Our society's obsession with projecting the ideal image only deepened.


The inherent desire to compare ourselves to others has existed for ages. The phenomenon of "keeping up with the Joneses" emerged in the 1950s, highlighting the urge to match our neighbors' success and material possessions. However, the rise of social media platforms magnified these tendencies. We are bombarded with images of seemingly perfect lives, perpetuating the belief that others have it all together while we fall short.


One key aspect of social media is that it primarily showcases carefully curated moments in time. Rarely do we gain insight into the full spectrum of someone's personal life. We witness the vacations, the smiling faces, and the seemingly happy relationships. But behind closed doors, we are often unaware of the challenges, pain, and vulnerability that others experience...that we all experience as being human beings. The gap between our reality and these highly filtered highlights can lead to dissatisfaction, depression, isolation, and loneliness.


It's essential to recognize that the images portrayed on social media are not accurate representations of reality. We must challenge the unrealistic expectations placed upon ourselves and embrace our authentic selves. Instead of seeking external validation and conforming to societal molds, we can shift our focus inward, towards self-growth, self-acceptance, self-love and Soul Recovery.


In relinquishing the need for constant comparison, we reframe our mindset and empower ourselves to choose our own happiness. Happiness should not depend on external factors or the perception of others. By prioritizing our mental and emotional well-being, we embark on a spiritual path toward a happy and healthy life.


To reclaim our authenticity, we need to acknowledge that imperfections are a part of the human experience, they ARE the human experience. Life is about challenges, struggles, and moments of vulnerability. Recognizing our shared humanity fosters empathy, compassion, and connection. Engaging in open and honest conversations allows us to break free from the suffocating grip of social media's illusions and embrace genuine connections as we embrace being ourselves and allowing others to do the same. We can take Social Media for what it is- curated moments, and open our eyes to see life clearly for all it is and let go of comparison and embrace our lives fully.


Together we can do the work that will Recover Your Soul.

Rev Rachel


Blog written with the assistance of AI technology using the transcript from the Bonus Episode titled: The Dangers of Social Media Comparison: How it Diminishes Our Self-Worth and Joy

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